Grief is a natural human response to losing someone or something, and it can take on many forms. The most common understanding of grief is that it is what we feel when someone dies, and the military is no stranger to death. As strong as a service member is, and needs to be in order to survive in times of war, the loss of someone will inevitably cause some emotional turmoil…as it should. And as strong as military families are, recovery from the loss of someone, anyone, can take some time.
If you are a veteran, you may experience feelings you don’t understand after separating from the military and your comrades. It’s possible you are feeling a sense of loss, and you are actually grieving the end of that military lifestyle and the bond you had with those who served with you. This again is a normal response, although it can make settling in to your new life more challenging.
Everyone responds to grief and loss in their unique way. There are stages of grieving that not everyone goes through in the same order or in the same way. Our culture rarely honors the grieving process. We are often expected by our work, our families, and our friends to “get over it” more quickly than is natural to do. Because of this sometimes we bury our sadness and pretend we are doing well when we are not. Unforunately, this only prolongs the healing process.
If you are struggling with grief that is interfering with your life or your relationships, talking to someone can help. That’s why there are Grief Support Groups at almost every hospital, where people who understand what you are going through can be there for you. Houses of worship also are a good source for support during a time of loss. Sometimes counseling can help,too, and is often only needed for a short time.
If you decide you would like to talk to someone and don’t know which way to turn, feel free to contact us and we will try to help you find the best option for you.